Elusive Female Friendships
Last week This Chick’s Life posted some great commentary regarding how she felt, not having a close female friend to hang out with. I felt compelled to write a response which I now re-post here:
I’m glad I’m not the only one going through this.
I’ve not been single for some time, and I truly enjoy the time I have with my partner, but not having a close female friend IS getting to me. Unfortunately I’ve more or less given up trying to find one for now as:
1/ My past experience has shown me there are many women who are willing to become satellites – dropping their friends / interests / independent lives – the moment they meet a guy and think there’s a possibility of coupledom. Worse, still, they suddenly become available if (or when) the relationship sours and they need someone to listen to them. While I like to think I’m a sympathetic soul, I don’t want that to be my only role!
2/ Friends who’ve become coupled or parents have little free time to share, and seem to think that not planning weeks in advance is so very, very high school and not what they, as proper grown ups, will even consider.
Wow. I didn’t realize I felt so strongly about this until I read your post…
Here we are a week later, and this is still nagging at me, mainly because it seems like such a negative viewpoint.
Does this mean I expect my current group of female acquaintances & friends to go down one of those two routes?
Good heavens, no! I always hold out hope.
But it does make me wary of making deeper connections.